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This was written to help individuals struggling with their self-esteem. Negative feelings about oneself paint a black picture that is highly exaggerated. We must reject such harsh attacks on our self-esteem. Article

Success in anything comes from self esteem. The Oxford University Press Dictionary defines self-esteem as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. You gain confidence in your abilities by doing. The problem is that we usually never attempt something believed impossible. In other words, you have to believe you can do it, before you have the courage to try.

Most of us have an inferiority complex. We don’t believe in our heart we can achieve major success. We may set out to set the world on fire, but after a few of our blazes fizzle out, we come to the conclusion that we were not meant to be successful.

The feelings inside us keep saying that we are not good enough. They say we can’t be any more than mediocre, and it’s a struggle to go that far. Some of these feelings may result from past failures and some from the negative things we were told when growing up. When children attempt things and fail, they often receive negative comments from adults. It may even be insinuated that we will never amount to anything. We remember the negative things much longer then the positive ones, in fact, they haunt us the rest of our life.

The situation is no where near as bad as our negative feelings would lead us to believe. We must reject such harsh attacks on our self esteem. Everyone has a right to feel positive about themselves. The reason is as old as the world. We were created in the image of God! That doesn’t mean that we look like him, but that we have the stamp of approval of the Creator of the universe. We have every reason to hold our head high and expect to be a success, because that is what we were created for.

We were created by the one that cannot make a mistake. He determined the times set for everyone and the exact place we would live. He gave each of us the strengths and weaknesses we have so we can know who we are, and what we can do. He then created good works for us to do. Our job is to discover what they are.

Believers of God have an advantage over unbelievers. We don’t have to depend on ourselves. We realize that we can do little by our self, but the Lord can accomplish great things through us! We can discover the purpose we were created for by examining what we have a passion for.

When you read everything that is said about the righteous, and what was done to keep you from eternal destruction, it makes you realize how much God loves you. It is great to have parents who are well off. How much greater is the feeling that your heavenly Father owns heaven and earth and that you are a joint heir with Christ!

It is this feeling that propels one past self pity to soaring with God. Since we no longer have to carry around the load of sin once presence, we are free from worry, knowing that the one
that cares for the flowers and birds will take care of us even better. We are free to pursue our dreams.

When we face difficulties, we can reach down into our faith and obtain the courage to go on. Anyone can have faith when things are going well. It is the tough times that challenges our faith. That is not a time to give up, it is one of the things faith is for. We must hold on to it and believe that we can get through the trials we are having.

Unbelievers pursue their own purpose. Believers seek the purpose the Lord created for them. When our purpose is the same as his, we are blessed beyond measure. It is a fact of life that we reap more than we sow. That is why it is crucial to sow what is pleasing to the Creator.

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A cornerstone of personal achievement literature is the stories used to support the principles being taught.

These stories are used to teach, inspire and motivate. Within the words used to tell the story is a lesson for us to learn and carry with us.

But as powerful as the messages in these stories can be, they don’t compare to the lessons we can learn from the people we personally come in contact with.

I had the good fortune to experience this recently when my wife, Cindy, and I visited with a long-time friend of hers that she had not seen in many years. Her name is Jean, and she is one remarkable lady.

What makes Jean so remarkable can be summed up in one word, attitude.

As Jean and my wife reminisced and caught each other up on events, I listened. Jean has experienced more than her share of adversity over the years, including breast cancer. Yet through it all she has maintained her sense of humor, her faith and a great outlook on life.

“The last of human freedoms - the ability to chose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances.”
~Viktor Frankl Austrian psychiatrist and psychotherapist. 1905-1997

Jean is a wonderful example of how a person can exercise the freedom and ability to choose one’s attitude.

Between the time of the mastectomy and the reconstructive surgery, Jean could have been filled with resentment or loss of self-esteem. Instead, she was more concerned with how it would affect her granddaughter. So she chose to explain what was happening, in a way that a child could understand and deal with. Jean chose to be more concerned about her granddaughter’s feelings, than her own.

During the chemotherapy and eventual hair loss, Jean chose to use her excellent sense of humor. She picked out wigs with different styles and colors to wear to work. One day she may be a blond, another a redhead. One day she had long straight hair, another short and curly. The people she worked with would come by just to see “who Jean was today”.

When she first went back to work, she had wanted to keep what she had been through quiet. She did not want or need a “pity-party”. When word did get out, she could have been upset that her wishes were not followed, or by the invasion of privacy, but a remarkable thing happened.

Jean was amazed at how many people came by with questions because either they or someone close to them was going through a similar ordeal. Jean chose to see this as a way to help, comfort and support others. To her she was not doing anything special, she was just doing what God had intended. Jean found meaning and a way to help others from her own suffering.

So just what is Jean’s secret? How does she maintain her positive attitude?

Toward the end of our visit, Jean revealed her secret. As I mentioned earlier, Jean has had more than her share of adversity, the breast cancer is just one example. She made a statement about the adversities that I will always remember.

Jean said, “While at times I’ve been scared, angry or sad, on the inside I’ve always been happy”.

The lesson that I will carry with me is this; Happiness is a choice. It comes from the inside. As long as a person decides to be happy, and accepts that happiness is internal, they have a greater ability to deal with adversity. The surface emotions brought about by circumstance, cannot change the inner core of whom we are.

Exercising the ability to choose our attitude, and choosing wisely, we strengthen our inner core. When we strengthen our inner core, it is easier to make a wise choice in any given circumstance. It is a self-perpetuating cycle, and it is completely within our control.

Article by Ron Kirkland from Learning To Succeed. The free email newsletter dedicated to personal development by Success Review - Success Can Be Learned. Visit http://www.successreview.com. Subscribe now at http://www.successreview.com/ezine.htm and claim your free bonus gifts.

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It begins with you, and your attitude. There are a lot of misconceptions about what type of guys women date. Most guys start thinking, oh they only date the rich guys with thick wallets, or those supermodel guys who look super hot. First off, if you’re looking to find a date, you need to stop comparing yourself to other guys. This show isn’t about those guys with Porsches and Ferrari’s, it’s about you.

Believing that you can get a date will help you become more confident. If everyday, you think of yourself as a loser, then honestly, you will remain a loser. Actions have to come from you; the will to succeed and strive has to come from your desire. Sitting around and feeling like crap won’t help to your cause, trust me.

Now that we have focusing on yourself, and confidence taken care of, most guys start to be very self-conscious about their looks. Let’s face it, not everyone looks like Brad Pitt, and there’s nothing you can do about that it’s all genetics. What you can do, is start changing your habits and push them into tune. Brush your teeth regularly, shower everyday, buy some fancy deodorant (Axe, Old Spice), comb your hair (gel, hairspray), and most of all wear a comfortable yet good-looking outfit depending on where you go everyday. If your still in school or college, wear something casual, if you’re low on cash, visit some of the cheaper stores maybe in an outlet mall and look for coupons. There’s no excuse for not keeping yourself in shape either!

Now comes the hard part, facing the real world when approaching a girl. You have to break that shy bubble that you’re sitting in. Being silent, and thinking inside your head of all the things you COULD be doing, will not benefit anything. If you’re worried that you come to work everyday, and if you mess up your life will be ruined, then don’t try to find a date or flirt there! There are a lot of social gatherings, clubs, theaters, plays, etc. where there are plenty of women to pick up. You should use this opportunity to experiment.

Start talking, and joking around, the most important thing of all: try to have some fun. You will be surprised by all the success, and even if you do say something dumb or silly, there’s no need to worry because you’re not going to be seeing that person everyday anyway. Hopefully these are a few helpful tips to raise your self-esteem. The key is to be confident, don’t sweat, and have a good time.

Daniel Okula is a writer and a web publisher for dating articles from http://datingtalk.net. Find more similar articles on his website.

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