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We all dream of our children being confident with high self-esteem.
It’s vital we remember that everything we say to a child can have a positive or negative consequence on their minds.

Sometimes all it takes is one knock back, one put down or one embarrassment to affect their behaviour well into their adult life if not for the rest of their days.

Mindful parenting is the answer. That’s being consciously aware of how you are communicating to your child in verbal and non-verbal ways. Consider yourself as a guide in your child’s life. Holding their hand along the way, at times walking just in front to lead them, sometimes walking by their side discovering together and at other times walking a step or two behind, supporting and encouraging them, being there to love them if they falter from their path. And it is THEIR path.

To help you achieve this I’ve given you some ideas below. Pick one or two to begin with and work with them until you feel comfortable. Then pick the next ones on the list you want to try.

Your rewards will be immense as parenting becomes relaxed and the family bonds grow stronger.

10 tips for building confidence and self-esteem:

Give responsibility appropriate to ability. Consider yourself as the guide that enables or disables a child’s growth.

Never tell a child they are wrong. Build co-operation. Remind them what you admire about them and ask them to try things a different way next time.

Give genuine praise for positive progression in schoolwork and things they do at home. Any step forward is progression. Praise it!

Let children hear you telling others about their strengths and progression - they’ll believe it more!

Involve them in parent/teacher discussions. Make it positive and solution focused.

Sit or crouch down when talking to them. Be on their eye level.

Ask for their opinions and validate them.

Together write a list of all their qualities. Encourage your child to come up with them and read the list daily.

Find something good in them everyday. Tell them.

Have teachers tell them what they are good at. When they could do better show them when they have previously done it well and refer them to it.

Involve them in family discussions and decisions. Listen to their ideas. Try to work with their ideas and tell them well done for their contribution.

Happy families

Jo

Jo Ball
Unstoppable Life

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It happened again in class. While sharing my insights on a
particular subject, I spontaneously began by saying:

“Ask yourself this question”

I believe in the power of a good question. Questions find
their way into my journal, class notes, and my interactions
with people.

Any one answer to any one of the nineteen questions below
could make a positive impact on your life.

Did you get that? No hype.

No outrageous claims, no related tapes to purchase, and no
guarantees about changing your life forever.

But…

The potential for meaningful change does lie before you *in
the form of your own seriously considered answer* to a
selected question.

A FEW BRIEF SUGGESTIONS

Pay attention to your initial feelings about an inquiry you
read.

Should you notice a “first impression answer” that ushers in
a sense of excitement, challenge — or a deep sense of “I
should do this” — be sure to slow down your internal speed
of life and park there a moment or two.

Remember: repeating a question over and over sets in motion
an on-going search to discover *just the right answer for
you.*

Consider recording your thoughts in a journal.

Enjoy the process!

AND THE QUESTIONS ARE…

1. What one small thing — repeat — “small thing” — is
holding me back from doing my best today?

2. What *one* small thing is hindering me from becoming the
person I be could be today in *one* area of my life?

3. What action could I take today to brighten someone’s
world?

*And here’s the key: simple, doable, and even fun!

4. How can I double my value as a ___________ this year?

*As a… husband, father, employee, friend, etc.

*Suggestion: ask this question many, many times.

5. Where should I influence my world in a positive way?

6. Are negative thinking patterns eating away my potential
in any area of my life — no matter how small?

7. Am I saying “I can’t” when I should be saying “I can”
or “I must!” anywhere in my life?

8. My greatest area of tension at work or home right now is
________. How could I improve just 10% in this area?

9. What positive discipline have I let slip lately? What
price am I paying for this slip?

10. Where can I, or should I, make a positive difference?

11. If I took a thirty second “happy memory break” right
now, what would I remember?

13. How can I schedule a small break in my life — just
enough to be refreshed and recharged a bit?

14. What untapped potential could I bring to my world?

15. Am I learning what I need to learn?

16. Are my associations making me or breaking me?

17. Who is challenging me or inspiring me right now?
Who could?

18. Should I procrastinate on anything, or set aside
anything, that is not important for what is *most* important?

19. Is there anything I should *stop* doing?

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Many people suffer from a lack of self-confidence; a feeling that spirals into placing ones own self-esteem down a bottomless abyss through the affirmations pulled from any of the following sources: peers, co-workers, family, friends, magazines, TV commercials, and particularly yourself (though the list could be endless). Without realizing it, in a blink you define yourself by other people’s standards of what they feel you are or you should be, forgetting the notion that your life must be lived on your own terms and not those of others. My company, Living by Design, nails the style of life that should be lived head onyour life, your design.

Shakespeare once said all the worlds a stage and we are merely players acting out our part. But, if we are actors with inherited gifts and traits who can alter the course of our own life at any given moment, why is it we do not chose to do so? Are we destined to live a role we know we were inherently not meant to play?

I love the coined phrase “if you could step into someone else’s shoes” Haven’t you been told this more than once? I have! Enough times that, as I leafed through the magazines and saw the beautiful faces and bodies of the models displayed on the pages that I thought to myself “what is the difference between them and me”? I mean really? Absolutely none. Looking at myself in the mirror one night I felt that I had been hit by a lightening bolt that actually preempted me to write this article (note the date here please 10/27/05). Self-confidence, or just plain confidence at any rate, and perception was directly linked to ones imagery or role they chose to play. What if the role I chose to play could be changed at any single moment through real imagery? Not just knowing a goal and wanting the goal, by using imagery and directly taking the role I wish to play and immediately applying it to my life as if I was stepping through a mirror into another “stage” of life that I was truly meant to live.

Let me go on to explain. A person would like to lose weight, look great, get in shape, and be on top of their game. They go to the store and buy Self Magazine or Muscle and Fitness Magazine and peer through the pages in a dream-like state of “I wish I could look like that” or “I could never be like that” followed by grabbing some diet pills off the shelf, getting in their car, driving to McDonalds and ordering fries and a hamburger. Self-defeating from point A to point B.

Take that same scene and alter it a bit. Now you have the magazines, but zero in on a particularly pleasing look you would like to have. Once again, your imagination takes shape and you begin to go through the thought patternsSTOP! This is where the altering moment begins.

To be or not to be, that is the question. To be what you want to be takes being the person you would like to be right then, right there. Consider, for a moment, how a person you would wish to be lives? What food do they eat? What is their lifestyle like? What type of clothes do they where? How do the smile? How do they interact with other people? How to they care for others? What type of home-life do they have? How do they feel about themselves? What do they project to others? What are their beliefs? Now, with all that in mind.imagine and be the person you wish to be. Live this role and don’t apologize for it. McDonalds drive through now becomes a diet coke and a saladfat free dressing please. After work (drinking two bottles of water to keep the body hydrated) you go to the gym of your choice to sign up and ask for a private instructor for a week or two to decide on the best routine for you. The magazines are now part of your journalsyour wealth of knowledge. Once home, you clean the pantry out of all the Little Debbie cakes that are stored up along with all the sugary cereal that is alongside with it. You step into the rolethe role you were meant to live.

Imagery is about you and affects every part of your world; family, community, work-life, home-life, educational, religious, intimate relationships .and range of beliefs and states in areas such as spiritual, financial, physical, and mental. Imagery is not about the past and holds no reference to any past issues or actions. It’s about the here and now and deciding in an instant that you will be the person you wish to be and taking on the role immediately that you are meant to live. No magic tricks hereit’s real, it can happen for youyour life, your stageplay the best role of your life now!

To learn more about imagery and how imagery can work for you, contact Gina Kovacs, owner and director of Living by Design, Life Coaching and Wellness Solutions at 518-373-2815 or 866-205-9917.

Gina Kovacs is a Life Coach, certified through the Coaching Academy of North America, Inc., specializing in the fields of personal, relationship, spiritual, and weight loss coaching. Gina holds a BA in Philosophy from Siena College and is an author and motivational speaker in the field of personal and life coaching. Please logon to http://www.livingalifebydesign.com for more information on how Living by Design can help you.

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