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Are you looking into ways to help you to gain more confidence? Have you a lack of self-belief? Do you think that you are a weak person? Would you like to be more care-free person? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, this article may well be worth a read. I am going to write about how people can go about increasing their self-confidence. This advice is what I have used to help myself turn from an often depressive person to a now happy and relaxed young man.

My name is Steve Hill and I have to admit that for the first twenty-two years of my life, I did not exactly live life to the full or in the correct manner. I was basically like a scared rabbit, I worried about almost all aspects of life and was a very negative person. I needed to change this approach as I was not exactly a happy chap. Ten years ago I went about making this change by reading literature about self-confidence and by trying to learn how other people coped with their problems compared to me.

One of my many weaknesses was that I was very paranoid about what other people thought of me. I was desperate for people to like me and would easily get upset if people criticised me or made fun of me etc. In a way, I tried to hard to earn this type of respect and would do things and attend functions which I did not really want to, just to please other people of course.

I have now realised and accepted that it is important for me to be truthful to myself. I should be doing what I want to do and if people do not like me for whatever reason, then that is fine, I have enough people who do.

I have also decided to stop worrying about things like the future, money, relationships and work. Stressing about these and other things does not make life an easier, in fact it makes it a lot harder. There is no time in life for this type of fear, I should be spending this time trying to improve and enjoying my life. If something goes wrong which of course it will from time to time, I will deal with it when it happens, in a very positive and dynamic way.

As an example of my new found inner confidence was something that happened during a recent evening out I had with some friends of mine. We were all drinking quite a lot of beer and it was clear that most of my friends were intent on becoming very drunk. I like a drink but not half as much as what other people seem to. At around nine o’clock I had basically had enough of drinking alcohol and started to drink diet coke. My friends gave me some funny looks and made some comments, they were suggesting that I was not a true male. I did not care what they thought of me and told them so. If I want to drink diet coke then I will.

I am happy with my latest approach to life and am determined not to go back to the way I used to think and live. I do stress at times but quickly attempt to snap out of it by thinking in a more positive way.

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Who do you know that reflects a “Magnificent Self?” We all know someone. Oprah is a prime example of someone who embraces her Magnificent Self. She uses her passions and multitude of resources to motivate and inspire others. She shines her light brightly into places of darkness to wake-up the world, call together other bright lights and beckon us all into oneness. It is important to know that we each have a Magnificent Self waiting to be expressed and shared with the world. It is a Self that comes from within. You can’t stand in the bright light of another Magnificent Self and become Magnificent, it doesn’t work that way. People of Magnificence ask you to cultivate and develop the qualities of greatness within so that you can become your own Magnificent Self!

Where do you begin? Here are just a few qualities that define a Magnificent Self:

Take 100% responsibility for yourself and your actions.
You are 100% responsible for your perceptions, reactions and your responses to life. You are 100% responsible for how you experience the events of your life. When you are willing to take full responsibility for life, you no longer blame or accuse others for things not working in your life. You are empowered to make apologies, clear up misspoken conversations and make amends quickly. You commit your energy to bringing life together in a healthy, loving flow.

Live in the Spirit of Abundance
Being in the flow of abundance is key to knowing there is always enough. “Enough” is measured in terms of ideas, creativity, time, money, opportunities, and of course love. Letting go of a belief in “lack” or “not enough” is paramount to being a Magnificent Self. It also supports you in letting go of having the desire to compete or have more. As you claim your plenty, you are able to take all you need and give back more knowing there is always enough.

Gratitude is a Magic Key

Living with an “attitude of gratitude” gives you an open perspective of life. Gratitude keeps the energy of life flowing. Gratitude is the key that helps you breathe in life more fully and allow its experiences to expand both your inner self and your vision of possibilities.

Know the Divine Paradox of Life
Understanding this concept plays a tremendous role in how you navigate life’s speed bumps. Situations that appear to “get in your way” are the very experiences you need to “overcome” in order to get where you are going. The journey to expressing your Magnificent Self happens one-step-at-a-time. When you become sidetracked, discouraged or stuck and begin to spin your wheels, step back and be 100% responsible for your perception. As you change the energy of the little things that “get in your way,” you are actually taking the next step forward.

Live by a Higher Wisdom
Living by a higher wisdom lets you know you are an intricate part of life’s complex puzzle. When you connect to your higher wisdom, you are linked to your Magnificent Self. Living in this consciousness supports you in thinking “outside the box” and in creating habits that support life, not take it away.

Your Life is Your Message

Knowing that entire your life’s purpose is to deliver a message, you are committed to giving your Magnificent Self back to the world as a gift. Your life has a higher purpose and meaning. You are authentic. You walk your talk. You practice what you preach and you know you are making a difference in the world; shining your light on others so they too have the opportunity to experience living as their Magnificent Self!

Take a moment and remember, you cannot be an audience member to become your magnificent self. Being on Oprah or simply listening to her messages isn’t the answer. Thinking like Oprah is. You must be a participant in your own life’s story, deliver your own messages and generate your own light. Only then can you truly reflect your Magnificent Self.

Sharon Marquart is a gifted Certified Personal Coach, inspirational speaker and author. For more than 13 years she has share with audiences large and small. She is the author of “Working For God,” “Living With Soulful Purpose,” and “Creating A Wedding Ministry.” Her coaching practice is Living at YES!(You Embracing Spirit) where she passionately supports clients in identifying mistaken beliefs and self-limiting thoughts. She coaches them in getting unstuck, setting intentions and living possibilities! Sharon teaches via tele-classes and facilitates tele-groups and e-courses. Her coaching clients are nationwide. Sharon is committed to bringing Metaphysical and Spiritual Truths into everyday language and applying them to everyday life experiences.

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Worthiness-word origin. Worth and worship both come from Old English weorth, worth value. Worship is composed of this word weorth, worth, + ship (a suffix meaning condition, office, etc. as in friendship and sportsmanship), hence worship was originally the condition or office of being worthy, worthiness, dignity. This use is still found in the title worship, as in Will your worship take tea now? From this use worship then came to mean homage, as given a deity. Although, it is foolhardy to expect people to worship you, it is a nice concept to remember. You are worthy of being worshipped-for the most part it isn’t plausible.

What is your worth? What is your value? To whom do you have worth or value? To thine own self be true. Most people base their worth or value by deriving it from those around them. This is a false and empty standard by which to measure our worth or value. For many denying the truth abounds. The truth is - our worth or value is best measured by our own yardstick. Many people would rather wallow in self-pity than accept the power within that we own our self-worth. We are all responsible for ourselves. We are the only ones who can walk through our doors and if we don’t see ourselves as an open door, we will just close it and continue to live life in the state of suffering that unconsciously we believe is our fate.

One of the greatest misconceptions for women is that they believe they must suffer in life. Women suffer by changing for another human being’s happiness, accepting abuse in their lives, allowing their children to witness or be a part of abuse, and suffering in the form of not loving themselves enough to take command of their worthiness. We can all think that we would be better if we went through some horrible travesty. People fail to realize that they have already put themselves through a horrible travesty by not allowing themselves to be the yardstick of their own worthiness. Many people do not believe they deserve love or prosperity. Even though they might pray for love, health and wealth, they continually doubt themselves and ignore their divine guidance capabilities so that they can enjoy their self-worthiness. Thus, they actually get what they asked for: an abusive relationship, a lack of money and a complete feeling of unworthiness. At the time they do not realize that they are creating what they received.

So what prompts so many people to believe that worthiness is only given to a select few? There is nothing wrong with feeling worth. The problem lies in not realizing that you ARE worthy. You need to consider yourself worthy in EVERY fashion possible and never accept anything less than what you deserve. Since love is the one thing everyone deserves, let’s say you are looking but can’t seem to achieve it. I can promise you, you are not asking for it. You are asking for what you do not want, rather than telling yourself who you deserve to have in your life. Until you realize you need to accept and deserve your worthiness you will not get who you deserve.

Realize and understand that YOU and you alone make the final decisions in your life. If someone looks good on the outside and they seem to be just what you have asked for take a look at their inside. Do they use alcohol to excess or uses drugs-yes, pot is a drug. Don’t overlook the fact that he or she mistreats their mother or father. Is there really a good reason for them not seeing their children? Do they look you in the eye when they talk to you? Did they cheat on their wife/husband, significant other? Do they tell you all the terrible things they used to do to their ex’s? This does not make them your friend because they have confided in you about their past transgressions. This is a red flag. Don’t believe they have changed without any type of outside help. Also, avoid making the biggest mistake most people make, thinking that they won’t treat you the same way. If a person doesn’t love, respect or regard themselves worthy, they won’t treat you any different than themselves or the ones before you.

It is easy to find someone to love. It is even easier to find the right person who is worthy of your love and who will return it, because they know you are as worthy as they are.

Clues of Inner Peace/Worthiness

1. A habit of thinking and acting spontaneously rather than from fears based on past experiences.

2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.

3. A lack of judging oneself.

4. A lack of judging others.

5. A lack of conflict.

6. A lack of interpreting the actions of others.

7. A lack of worrying.

8. Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.

9. Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.

10. Frequently smiling through the eyes of the heart.

11. Increasing susceptibility to love extended by others as well as the urge to extend it.

12. Allowing others to be, except in situations when your boundaries are transgressed or your feelings or needs aren’t heard.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD specializes in: Mind, Body, Spirit healing for Individuals, Special Issues and Professional Coaching. As an inspirational leader, Dr. Neddermeyer empowers people to view life’s challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and Spiritual Awakening.
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