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We humans are intuitive creatures. We have the ability to gain insight into our surroundings and experiences by listening to our inner voice. Our intuition is that quiet nudging that says, “Stop and talk with her,” “Turn here,” or “Something about this place does not feel right.”

Our world today is filled with signs that instruct, maps that guide, how-to books, all which lead us where we want to go. Mainstream society lauds rational thinking and logical decision-making. All these tools help us on our journey. The problem comes as we give our power over to the intellectual and take ourselves out of the active process of listening. We learn to shut down our sensitivity to our “gut instinct”, and in doing so, miss out on using a very powerful gift.

Cultivating your intuitive sensibilities is not difficult. Begin by paying attention when you feel indecisive, “Should I do this, or that?” Take a deep breath and turn your attention away from the logical decision-making part of you, and toward the messages in your own body. Give yourself a moment or two to discover what your intuitive-self is saying to you.

A great question to ask yourself as you go through this process is, “Which choice rings true for me?” Don’t be discouraged if you don’t feel particularly led one way or the other - it might take you a little time to get tuned in. However, as you practice this technique of quiet listening, you will find that you are tuning into your own body messages. The more you practice this tuning, the better your perceptions will be. This is a different way of knowing what is right and true. It calls us into the present - the here and now - and invites us to open ourselves to a deep pool of wisdom.

I always encourage clients to start small, and to test out their intuitive abilities in many different settings. You might notice your intuition comes to you as a passing thought. Try to notice and hear those thoughts, then act on them when you are able. It is in the action, the living into the quiet urging that we gain confidence in our intuition. As your experience with this knowing grows, you will begin to trust your intuition more and more. And as you trust your intuitive self, your intuition will strengthen.

Here is another example. This one is more difficult, but makes an important point. At a company party, someone you don’t know approaches you. The two of you begin to make small talk and something inside of you says, “Something does not feel right, this person has weird energy.” Perhaps this message comes to you as tightness in your belly, or an unusual tense feeling in your muscles or throat. Even a change in your breathing can tip you off that you might be in trouble. Here is the rub. We are socialized to believe that we must be polite, that we should stay and talk with people. We should “be nice.” We might think it rude to make an abrupt exit. So therein lies the difficulty, the conflict between your inner voice telling you this person doesn’t feel right - and your socialized, logical voice telling you, “Stay and be polite,” or worse yet, “You are just being silly.”

Sometimes our bodies give us very clear signals when danger is near. This is not a fearful paranoia, but an inner reading of our surroundings. Intuitive insights do not always seem logical at the time, and we can often get caught up in the conflict between logic and insight. However, the ability to hear your inner-wisdom, and act on that wisdom is truly a gift to be cultivated. Listen when your intuitive self talks to you - and act on your intuition as often as possible.

As you experiment with sharpening your intuition, you will get very tangible feedback. Over time, you will develop a very keen sense, and can “read” situations and people with ease. The more you listen to your intuition, the more messages your intuition will send.

As you test these intuitive insights, you will grow to trust this advisor within. You may even start to have insights or “hear” things in very mundane situations. As you experience this fine-tuning of your intuitive nature, you can celebrate both your insights, and your synchronicity with the universe.

© 2006 Cynthia McKenna LPC, NCC - All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

Cynthia McKenna LPC, NCC is a therapist and life-coach who helps people transform their lives. Her goal is to help people have more joy and peace in daily living. Cynthia works with clients throughout the country by phone and online. She also works with clients in her Texas Hill Country office.

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Worthiness-word origin. Worth and worship both come from Old English weorth, worth value. Worship is composed of this word weorth, worth, + ship (a suffix meaning condition, office, etc. as in friendship and sportsmanship), hence worship was originally the condition or office of being worthy, worthiness, dignity. This use is still found in the title worship, as in Will your worship take tea now? From this use worship then came to mean homage, as given a deity. Although, it is foolhardy to expect people to worship you, it is a nice concept to remember. You are worthy of being worshipped-for the most part it isn’t plausible.

What is your worth? What is your value? To whom do you have worth or value? To thine own self be true. Most people base their worth or value by deriving it from those around them. This is a false and empty standard by which to measure our worth or value. For many denying the truth abounds. The truth is - our worth or value is best measured by our own yardstick. Many people would rather wallow in self-pity than accept the power within that we own our self-worth. We are all responsible for ourselves. We are the only ones who can walk through our doors and if we don’t see ourselves as an open door, we will just close it and continue to live life in the state of suffering that unconsciously we believe is our fate.

One of the greatest misconceptions for women is that they believe they must suffer in life. Women suffer by changing for another human being’s happiness, accepting abuse in their lives, allowing their children to witness or be a part of abuse, and suffering in the form of not loving themselves enough to take command of their worthiness. We can all think that we would be better if we went through some horrible travesty. People fail to realize that they have already put themselves through a horrible travesty by not allowing themselves to be the yardstick of their own worthiness. Many people do not believe they deserve love or prosperity. Even though they might pray for love, health and wealth, they continually doubt themselves and ignore their divine guidance capabilities so that they can enjoy their self-worthiness. Thus, they actually get what they asked for: an abusive relationship, a lack of money and a complete feeling of unworthiness. At the time they do not realize that they are creating what they received.

So what prompts so many people to believe that worthiness is only given to a select few? There is nothing wrong with feeling worth. The problem lies in not realizing that you ARE worthy. You need to consider yourself worthy in EVERY fashion possible and never accept anything less than what you deserve. Since love is the one thing everyone deserves, let’s say you are looking but can’t seem to achieve it. I can promise you, you are not asking for it. You are asking for what you do not want, rather than telling yourself who you deserve to have in your life. Until you realize you need to accept and deserve your worthiness you will not get who you deserve.

Realize and understand that YOU and you alone make the final decisions in your life. If someone looks good on the outside and they seem to be just what you have asked for take a look at their inside. Do they use alcohol to excess or uses drugs-yes, pot is a drug. Don’t overlook the fact that he or she mistreats their mother or father. Is there really a good reason for them not seeing their children? Do they look you in the eye when they talk to you? Did they cheat on their wife/husband, significant other? Do they tell you all the terrible things they used to do to their ex’s? This does not make them your friend because they have confided in you about their past transgressions. This is a red flag. Don’t believe they have changed without any type of outside help. Also, avoid making the biggest mistake most people make, thinking that they won’t treat you the same way. If a person doesn’t love, respect or regard themselves worthy, they won’t treat you any different than themselves or the ones before you.

It is easy to find someone to love. It is even easier to find the right person who is worthy of your love and who will return it, because they know you are as worthy as they are.

Clues of Inner Peace/Worthiness

1. A habit of thinking and acting spontaneously rather than from fears based on past experiences.

2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.

3. A lack of judging oneself.

4. A lack of judging others.

5. A lack of conflict.

6. A lack of interpreting the actions of others.

7. A lack of worrying.

8. Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.

9. Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.

10. Frequently smiling through the eyes of the heart.

11. Increasing susceptibility to love extended by others as well as the urge to extend it.

12. Allowing others to be, except in situations when your boundaries are transgressed or your feelings or needs aren’t heard.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD specializes in: Mind, Body, Spirit healing for Individuals, Special Issues and Professional Coaching. As an inspirational leader, Dr. Neddermeyer empowers people to view life’s challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and Spiritual Awakening.
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When more than half of Americans were identified as overweight, people took notice. Major news outlets began educating on how to stay out, or get out, of that statistic. I wish the same attention had been paid when the Conference Board released their statistics saying half of Americans are satisfied with their job.

Of course, that means, half are dissatisfied. Disliking your job is hazardous to your health and well-being, too. You can’t be winning at working if you’re dissatisfied with your work or languishing in the status-quo of dislike.

Spending the majority of your waking hours dissatisfied, like being overweight, weighs you down, depletes your energy, and kidnaps your spirit. You can change all that. And looking for a new job should not be where you start. At least not yet.

First consider what is causing your dissatisfaction. Maybe it’s that annoying coworker or irritating boss that’s holding you back. Maybe if you only made more money. Maybe the work’s boring or the company’s unfair. Whatever your reasons, pause your thinking and go to step two: look deeper. More than likely what’s at the root of your dissatisfaction is your own doubts, fears, and insecurities.

You see, too often we become victims in our own life. We blame McDonald’s for having French fries that make us fat, and blame bosses who give us substandard raises. When in fact, we control whether the French fries gets purchased and put in our mouth, or we do the quality of work that meets the performance standards for a higher raise. It’s a choice. And choices bring accountability. It’s easier to believe you’re a victim of circumstances than a driver of your own future. But, this easier choice comes at a price: dissatisfaction.

The harder choice comes with a price too: personal accountability. That means when you’re running an obstacle course and discover you’re the obstacle, you correct your thinking, enhance your skills, and persist through your fears. It means, if you don’t get the raise, the promotion, or the more interesting work, you look in the mirror first.

Sure, in the end, you may determine you need to change jobs or environments. Just be sure it’s the job you’re dissatisfied with, or you may find the same irritating co-workers and unfair bosses (with different names, of course) waiting for you in the new job.

People who are winning at working don’t see themselves as victims. They know the choices they make have consequences and payoffs. And while fears, self-doubts and insecurities may stall their progress, challenge their courage, and test their persistence, it doesn’t stop them.

It’s not easy to move through your fears, build your self-esteem or change your negative self-talk. But few things in life worth having are easy. People who are winning at working do the hard self-work. They’re unwilling to let their fears, doubts and insecurities orchestrate the outcome of their lives, at work or at home. To them, the biggest dissatisfaction would be wondering about the person they could have been. Want to be winning at working? No one is stopping you, but you.

(c) 2005 Nan S. Russell. All rights reserved.

Sign up to receive Nan’s free biweekly eColumn at http://www.winningatworking.com Nan Russell has spent over twenty years in management, most recently with QVC as a Vice President. She has held leadership positions in Human Resource Development, Communication, Marketing and line Management. Nan has a B.A. from Stanford University and M.A. from the University of Michigan. Currently working on her first book, Winning at Working: 10 Lessons Shared, Nan is a writer, columnist, small business owner, and instructor. Visit http://www.nanrussell.com or contact Nan at info@nanrussell.com.

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