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Are you looking into ways to help you to gain more confidence? Have you a lack of self-belief? Do you think that you are a weak person? Would you like to be more care-free person? If you have answered yes to any of these questions, this article may well be worth a read. I am going to write about how people can go about increasing their self-confidence. This advice is what I have used to help myself turn from an often depressive person to a now happy and relaxed young man.

My name is Steve Hill and I have to admit that for the first twenty-two years of my life, I did not exactly live life to the full or in the correct manner. I was basically like a scared rabbit, I worried about almost all aspects of life and was a very negative person. I needed to change this approach as I was not exactly a happy chap. Ten years ago I went about making this change by reading literature about self-confidence and by trying to learn how other people coped with their problems compared to me.

One of my many weaknesses was that I was very paranoid about what other people thought of me. I was desperate for people to like me and would easily get upset if people criticised me or made fun of me etc. In a way, I tried to hard to earn this type of respect and would do things and attend functions which I did not really want to, just to please other people of course.

I have now realised and accepted that it is important for me to be truthful to myself. I should be doing what I want to do and if people do not like me for whatever reason, then that is fine, I have enough people who do.

I have also decided to stop worrying about things like the future, money, relationships and work. Stressing about these and other things does not make life an easier, in fact it makes it a lot harder. There is no time in life for this type of fear, I should be spending this time trying to improve and enjoying my life. If something goes wrong which of course it will from time to time, I will deal with it when it happens, in a very positive and dynamic way.

As an example of my new found inner confidence was something that happened during a recent evening out I had with some friends of mine. We were all drinking quite a lot of beer and it was clear that most of my friends were intent on becoming very drunk. I like a drink but not half as much as what other people seem to. At around nine o’clock I had basically had enough of drinking alcohol and started to drink diet coke. My friends gave me some funny looks and made some comments, they were suggesting that I was not a true male. I did not care what they thought of me and told them so. If I want to drink diet coke then I will.

I am happy with my latest approach to life and am determined not to go back to the way I used to think and live. I do stress at times but quickly attempt to snap out of it by thinking in a more positive way.

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We were not born with low self-confidence; we learned it, and we can unlearn it or learn to have self-confidence. The thing is we have to act on learning this consistently.

You can have all the talent, knowledge and ability to apply but without self-
confidence, it’s like being short a day in a seven day week. Here are seven ideas
you can act on over the next seven days to make everyday a more confident one.

1- Compare yourself with nothing, and no one - not even yourself. In particular, get
out of comparing yourself with others. Comparing can bring you up short or on the
other side, over feed your ego.

2- Make a habit of remembering your successes. Success breeds self-confidence.
Make a written list, a picture chart or even a recording of yourself tooting your own
horn - what you think and speak about most are what show up in your life.

3- Do things you are good at before you tackle what you have never done before.
Break the tasks into smaller to dos to have a steady step approach to success.

4- Have your top 3 goals at any point in time written out, and refer to your written
goals on a daily basis. The more senses involved in doing what you want to do, the
stronger your belief becomes that you can.

5- Monitor your self-talk so that you use positive self-talk regularly. Do not allow
self-doubt to set in.

6- Make a written list of 3 or 4 affirmations that affirm your value and worth. Read
your written list of positive affirmations daily.

7 - Get physically fit. Many studies show that physical activeness
has positive effects on our thinking because of both the endorphins released and
how good you can feel just for exercising.

Experience success more often and more often success will be your experience.

Pat Weber is a coach, certified telelcass leader, and corporate trainer. In her
business coaching, she works with small business owners, independent
professionals and salespeople to help them get more of what they want
sooner than later. Life is too short for slow coaching.

Visit her website at http://www.prostrategies.com Sign up for
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“Don’t be afraid of the day you have never seen.” English Proverb

How much time do you devote to worrying, panicking, fretting or stressing over something that is in the future? Do you worry about the logistics for getting family members from here-to-there? Or worry about a pending business deal? Or worry about health issues that may or may not be?

I can only imagine the strength we would all have if we corralled all of the energy spent on “days we have never seen” and spent that energy positively in the present.

Since May 1, I have been very occupied with an ill dog. My golden, Sage, is almost 4 and became violently sick the day before I was to leave on vacation. She had 5 seizures in 24 hours and was taken to the “Puppy ER.” To make a long story short, she has blastomicosis in her brain, lung, eyes, and skin. I decided that we should attempt to treat the disease since she is not in pain. I was fortunate that my best friend and mother were able to coordinate the 2-hour drive and care for her while I was away. At first, the treatment seemed to “take” but then a few days later she was absolutely listless and could not even walk. The day I was coming home, they took her to the ER once again. I would not be arriving home until late that evening.

I spoke with the doctor over the phone. His voice was not optimistic. I was en route back from my vacation and although he did not say it directly, I believe he felt there was little hope for survival. I asked if she would get to come home. He said that he was not sure but if she didn’t improve quickly, decisions would need to be made in the next couple of days. Again I asked if she was in pain and he said she was not, but that she was mentally “out-of-it” and seemed somewhat depressed.
When Sage first came down with these symptoms we did not have any idea what it was. She had been a perfectly healthy purebred up to that point. I quickly agreed to a full and expensive workup, including an MRI as I wanted to know what was behind this sudden change and if there was anything that could be done. It was the right choice the vet later told me or she would have been misdiagnosed as epileptic. All the signs pointed toward epilepsy and the only way to find the blasto was the chest x-ray, MRI and bloodwork. I researched the condition on the internet, as did my friend, and learned that treated animals had a 65% recovery rate–although it is lower in dogs that have as many areas involved as Sage does.

After learning how severe it had gotten from the vet, I hung up the phone and wanted to cry. I held it together since I was standing in the security checkpoint at the airport. Then I stopped myself. While the doctor might have a prediction–tomorrow wasn’t here yet. Getting lost in “tomorrow” and fearing the worst certainly wouldn’t do any good.

That day, they started giving Sage a small dose of steroids to reduce swelling in her brain which they thought might be responsible for the temporary paralysis. We agreed to talk the next morning. It seemed like she would be staying indefinitely and if that was the case I planned to drive down and see her.

When the doctor called the next morning he shared that amazingly Sage was standing up again. She had been listless when he left but now she was standing and walking around on her own. When we talked the following day, he said I could come and take her home. While she is far from out of the woods, they were not providing any care that couldn’t be provided in the home. The vet said she seemed depressed and going home would be good for her. My friend and I cheerfully made the trip to pick up Sage. While I had not seen her in her worst state, my friend had, and was amazed at the difference.

I am writing this on Sunday while Sage is lying by my legs with her chin on my foot snoring peacefully. The two days she has been home have brought remarkable improvement. Today she was running with the other dogs, chewing on a nylon bone and she even climbed up into her favorite chair next to me.

“Don’t be afraid of the day you have never seen.”

When this quote came through last week from a reader, it really resonated with me. When we live with fear, we make room for fear to take up residence and stay in our lives. When we live with strength, we make room for strength. I know which partner I would choose.

Sage has a battle ahead of her, but she doesn’t seem afraid of tomorrow or any day ahead. In a couple of weeks we will return to Madison for another MRI so they can see if the treatment is working and if we can expect a full recovery. I would appreciate your prayers for her.

As for me and my best friend, we expect a full recovery from Sage the Super-Dog with the positive-tail-wagging attitude. In the interim, she is reminding all of us who know her, not be afraid of the days we have not seen.

Try It! Where in your life do you fear, stress or worry about something upcoming? Realize that doing so makes the event or outcome more likely to be negative since you are embracing fear, stress or worry. Let each day unfold as it will and keep your energy and focus on making a positive difference today.

Brook Noel is the creator of the best-selling 70 Day Life Makeover Program for Women .. The Change Your Life Challenge. http://www.changeyourlifechallenge.com
This program has helped thousands of women take control of their home, finances, relationships, clutter, time-managmenet and more.

She is the author of 19 books and maintains three free newsletters. The Daily Rush is devoted to quick and easy recipes; Good Morning! is a daily newsletter to get your day off to a great start and The Challenge Weekly offers a personal challenge for self-improvement each week. To sign up for these free newsletters please visit http://www.changeyourlifechallenge.com/news.htm

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